"You mean the generation that paid three times as much for college to enter a job market with triple the unemployment isn’t interested in purchasing the assets of the generation who just blew an enormous housing bubble and kept it from popping through quantitative easing and out-and-out federal support? Curious."
You live in South Africa? Are you friends with "With Rue My Heart Is Laden"?
I have just moved back to Cape Town, SA, where I grew up, after studying in London, UK, for a year. I don’t know “With Rue My Heart Is Laden”, but I am definitely following his Tumblr and Twitter now. Very encouraged by what I’ve read so far!
Yeah, he’s pretty awesome! He’s also from SA as I’m sure you’ve figured out. I believe he’s in the UK at the moment but you two should def connect some time
The message I normally hear is this: Christians are beating up the gays again and how will they ever find Jesus if we keep pushing them away from him? We need to be better at witnessing, showing Jesus love, like the way he was with sinners he encountered…
It’s a condescending argument, and yet, one that doesn’t seem to realize it’s condescending. It typecasts gays as the worst sinners of the gospel that Jesus, despite everything, STILL LOVED. He goes even that far! Amazing!
… Like you, we seek to live good and honorable lives. As Christians we put our faith, desires, and daily living before God and ask for his direction. So, when you assume that being gay or being in a same-sex relationship is sinful by way of analogizing our lives with the rowdy crowd Christ hung out with, you suggest that we are more broken, more need of redemption than you. And you continue a narrative that says there are no other interpretations of scripture.
"As a student of theology, I am guided by three fundamental principles both in and out of the classroom: a) all truth is God’s truth, b) good theology begins at the Cross and ends in the streets, and c) God’s call to believers always involves justice and righteousness. Guided by these principles, I find that theology becomes theoretical by nature yet practical by application as it strives to bring justice and redemption for the common good."
^ everyone, meet my pastor :)
"You do not belong here. But shame on you for not staying."
This morning, my Facebook newsfeed is filled with people talking about whether or not it’s okay to discriminate against me and my future family
"And if you wanted to drown, you could,
But you don’t, because finally, after all
this struggle and all these years,
you don’t want to anymore.
You’ve simply had enough of drowning
and you want to live, and you want to love.
And you’ll walk across any territory,
and any darkness, however fluid,
and however dangerous to take the one
hand and the one life, you know belongs in yours."
"True Love" by David Whyte
"The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image."
As I was seeing my dear friend off at the airport this morning, I asked her in all sincerity why it was so hard for her to see me in a relationship. Her answer was that it was like watching a close friend destroy their life with something comparable to drugs. I begged her to consider the fruit of the lives of gay people she knows who are in committed relationships… and all she could do was shrug. Not ten minutes later she was seizing my shoulders and looking hard into my eyes and admonishing me firmly that one day the blinders will be peeled from my eyes and I will see truth … her idea of “truth” of course …
And here’s the thing. I love my friend. I love her so. very. much!!
But I hate what this method of thinking does to me. Its an attitude that enforces a particular interpretation of scripture onto the world and refuses to take any circumstances that might contradict that interpretation as a reason to reconsider their thinking. Rather, any contradicting stories/experiences are reinterpreted through that particular lens to reinforce the ill fitting worldview.
It sets me up for bitterness and resentment and constantly puts me on the defense. It makes me nervous to ever admit any difficulty or struggle I might experience in life or relationship because I know that such normal human experiences will be interpreted as signs of God’s judgment on my “gay lifestyle” rather than simply part of being human and figuring out how to honor God and love people. I can’t share about my boyfriend without wondering in the back of my mind if she’s praying for our relationship to fall apart. I can’t share about my joyful affirming experience at my church without seeing a look of skepticism flash across her face.
And the thing is, its not just her. Every one of my seven siblings and two parents act the same way. So many of my close friends do as well.
Father give me grace. Protect my heart from bitterness. Help me know how to do relationship with those who refuse to see beyond the limited range of their fear entrenched views. Give me forgiveness for where I respond by shutting people out rather than engaging them with mercy as you so often do with me. Convict me of the times when I cast the same fundamentalist attitude of demanding conformity at them… as they do with me. Teach me to love unconditionally as you do but also how to healthily and tactfully confront attitudes that don’t reflect your spirit. Amen
Working on some graphics for the next sermon series at my church while watching Sense and Sensibility and drinking wine