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I live in fear of screwing up. If I mess up it’s not “Laura did something wrong”, it’s “that lesbian Christian woman did something wrong,” most likely followed by an “I told you so.” …

It is an unjust burden that LGBTQ Christians have to be on their best behavior; that we are not allowed to be human because we must be more than. On a personal level, feeling such responsibility has at times made me bitter or feel like I’m putting on a show. In trying to show the world that not all gay people are heavy drinkers and drug users, for example, I should be allowed to have a glass of wine. In trying to show the world that not all gay people are promiscuous, I should be allowed to have relationships that fail. In trying to show the world that not all gay people are atheists I should be allowed to ask questions and express my doubts.

— 1 month ago with 27 notes
#gaychristian  #lesbianchristian 
Anonymous asked: Coming out a year ago has been deeply liberating for me, but also confusing and frustrating on issues relating to God, faith, and sexuality. Thank you for sharing and compiling these morsels of wisdom and profound thoughts… they have provided me with countless “lightbulb” moments (and seriously nourished my INFJ brain). Jesus is so apparent in your life. Keep on reflecting his grace.


Thanks for the uplifting note! :) I’m glad to hear that you are gradually working through things and finding some resolution as you do so. Coming out and processing faith in the midst of it can be quite the messy complicated experience.

— 1 month ago with 4 notes
Dead Faith →


Faith is not in certainty; it is in the humility of doubt. The Christian church’s biggest, most embarrassing and most harmful mistakes throughout history have been rooted in its refusal to change and grow when new information comes to light that could help us understand God’s creation better…

— 4 months ago with 18 notes

But this is the wrong analogy. Suffering, such as a physical disability, is not something for which the Bible holds us morally responsible. But Scripture regards internal temptations to sin as categorically different from blameless suffering. Within a non-affirming framework, same-sex desire should be viewed no differently than lust or anger: a temptation to sin that we should not only resist, but for which we also must repent. As James writes, “But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death” (James 1:14-15).

So within a non-affirming framework, same-sex desire is not merely a sign that “the world is not right.” It is also a sign that one’s own heart and mind are not right. Like any other desire for sin, it is a symptom of a heart in rebellion against God. Now, it’s true that all of our hearts are in one way or another in rebellion against God, and certainly, a perfect life is not a prerequisite for being a faithful Christian. But as we invite the Holy Spirit into our lives to regenerate and redeem us, the fruit of genuine faith should involve at least some change in our sinful desires. Consequently, within a non-affirming framework, while experiencing same-sex attraction is itself no worse than experiencing impulses toward greed, anger, or adultery, experiencing persistent and exclusive same-sex attraction for a lifetime should call into question whether one has truly surrendered one’s heart to God. Certainly, a Christian who is always angry with his brothers and sisters has a deeper heart problem that he needs to address: perhaps pride, self-seeking, or a failure to love his neighbor as himself. Likewise, within a non-affirming framework, a Christian who always experiences same-sex attraction must have a deeper heart problem he needs to resolve. So long as his same-sex attractions persist, his deeper problem of moral alienation from God has not been sufficiently addressed.

Allberry, like many other celibate, non-affirming LGBT Christians, skirts over this issue of moral responsibility for his same-sex attractions. In so doing, he makes non-affirming theology easier to live out, but at the cost of introducing profound theological confusion and inconsistency. Now, of course, I am highly sympathetic to the reasons why Allberry and others have, largely unintentionally, created this theological muddle. The consistent non-affirming response to same-sex attraction I have just outlined is essentially “ex-gay:” not only is acting on being gay wrong, but being gay itself is also wrong, so Christians struggling with “SSA” should constantly seek to eradicate their same-sex attractions and replace them with heterosexual ones.

While that approach is theologically consistent to a certain point, Allberry and others reject it as a favored pastoral prescription for “SSA” Christians for good reason: it doesn’t succeed in eradicating or even significantly diminishing same-sex desire in the vast majority of cases, and it is a recipe for constant torment and crushing shame, the burden of which has proven far too great for many gay Christians to bear. Given the rank failure of the “ex-gay” approach, non-affirming Christians like Allberry have sought to find a middle way, wherein they do not have to feel morally at fault for their persistent same-sex desires but can still regard any and every expression of those desires as sin.

Sympathetic as I am to that attempt at a middle ground, however, it cannot hold from a biblical perspective. The Bible simply does not allow us to consider ourselves blameless for internal temptations to sin, nor does it allow us to view unchanged sinful desires as a sign of a vibrant, faithful Christian life. In that respect, part of the reason Allberry finds his non-affirming beliefs livable is because he has already watered down his beliefs in order to make them livable.

— 4 months ago with 16 notes


nobody says it but we all know what this is about

This picture is weirdly genius



nobody says it but we all know what this is about

This picture is weirdly genius

(Source: moseisleywelcomingcommittee, via thepotentiallyreverend)

— 4 months ago with 468938 notes

First week in Xi’an visiting my sister

— 5 months ago with 5 notes

TBT from last year’s fourth of July. 

I can’t believe I’m finally going to be living in the same city as this guy!

— 6 months ago with 15 notes
The Great Evangelical Divorce →



A palpable shift within Evangelicalism has been happening over the last two weeks. Conservative and Progressive Evangelicals have been raising their war cries against one another. While each side is sure of where they stand, I’m convinced that neither side understands how they got to…

I don’t know if I completely see eye-to-eye with all of Brian’s conclusions but its a fairly comprehensive and well thought out analysis of the schisming going on in the Evangelical world.

I personally DO think its possible to retain a more conservative hermeneutic and still arrive at an affirming conclusion.

— 6 months ago with 40 notes
#world vision  #gay Christian  #theology  #conservative  #progressive 
"I find it so ironic as a Bible teacher that the Savior of the world boiled down the kingdom to such a simple formula while me and mine exegete everything within an inch of its life. When I get bogged down, I always remember Jesus: Love God and love people. There you are. Do this and you will live. The end."
Jen Hatmaker
— 6 months ago with 10 notes
"When you start your life as a third culture kid, it turns out you just keep looking for it and it keeps looking for you."
— 6 months ago with 63 notes
#Third Culture Kid  #Missionary Kid  #TCK  #MK 
"I’ve moved on average every three to four years, it’s a way of life written into my DNA, stamped on my passport and echoed in the chambers of my heart."
— 6 months ago with 11 notes
#Truth!  #MK  #TCK  #Missionary Kid  #Third Culture Kid